I’ve seen this question come up many times:
“I used to be completely obsessed with my Twin Flame—they were all I could think about daily. But now, I feel detached and more focused on myself. Does this mean we’re separating?”
If you’re at peace and able to focus on yourself, that’s actually a good sign. Your connection with your Twin Flame isn’t measured by how often you think about them. In fact, obsessing over them can actually push them away, as it comes from a place of lack, separation, and insecurity.
The correct order of focus is:
- God (or Source)
- Yourself
- Your Twin Flame
When you prioritize your own growth—healing, self-love, getting your life in order, and resolving personal challenges—you’re actually laying the foundation for your Twin Flame Union.
Now, imagine if you spent your entire life thinking about them, worrying about what they’re doing, or being too afraid to shift your focus onto yourself. Would that truly prepare you for a healthy relationship with them? Of course not. Because in that scenario, you’re not really loving yourself—you’re seeking something from them instead of simply loving them.
So, to clarify: If you’re no longer obsessing over them, it doesn’t mean you’re separating. It likely means you’ve grown beyond neediness and are choosing to love yourself and prepare for them in a healthier way.
That said, there’s a small distinction to be aware of. There’s a difference between genuinely refocusing on yourself and numbing out to the connection. If you’ve emotionally shut down due to pain or disappointment, that’s not the same as consciously shifting your focus to self-love and personal growth.
If you think you might be numbing out, or if you’re struggling with obsession and want to refocus on yourself, send me a message here.
Blessing to your Union,
Carmel.
